Doest it still matter to be a virgin as a woman of God? Is it still a
big deal to
your future husband if you’re not a virgin anymore? If you’re not a
virgin anymore, are you considered a sinner and should you be shameful
about it?
Long long time ago, losing a virginity of a woman is like a disgrace,
even Joseph (biological father of Jesus) thought of divorcing Mary
because she’s conceiving without having a sexual contact with
him.
Because
Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to
expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce
her quietly.-Matthew 1:19
A
woman would really regret losing her virginity especially when she gave
it to the wrong person, she might be shameful about herself, she will
cry and hoping that she could undo her mistake. But that was already
done and even if you’ll cross thru a wire and make some rituals so not
to feel guilty, you can never bring back your virginity, not anymore!
For
women who are still virgins, good for you! I encourage you to stay
virgins until your honeymoon. You can be proud of it and your future
husband can be also proud of you but never use this as an insult or
never judge those women who made a mistake of giving up their virginity
to the wrong guy because they just did it out of love, also some women
were rape victims and it’s not their fault, they never hoped for that!
If you’re one of those who really regret and having the burden of guilt and shame, i’m telling you -you don’t have to! You must move on and you may consider these things;
- ASK FOR FORGIVENESS. God loves you, He will never keep a record of how many sins have you committed, He is willing to forgive you.
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.-1John 1:9
“Come now, let us settle the matter,” says the Lord. “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool. -Isaiah 1:18
- FORGIVE YOURSELF. Sometimes
even if you already asked for God’s forgiveness, you can still feel the
guilt and it’s like a nightmare. You must forgive yourself and move on,
accept that you cannot undo your mistakes but you can still do right
things to be a new and a better person.
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ,the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! -1Corinthians 5:17
- WAIT FOR THE RIGHT MAN. There
is no perfect man but there is a right one for you. This man will love
and accept you for who you are and for who ever you are in your past.
There will always be a right man who will never look at you flaws.
Yes,
virginity is the best gift to your husband but ONLY at your honeymoon,
and for me, the best gift you can give to your husband is love, care,
loyalty, understanding and of course -kids to complete your family.
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